Saturday, May 19, 2012

The Joy of 'Groppers'

I seem to have a strange affinity with the Grasshopper Warbler which has allowed me over the last few years to build a good library of images. It strange as a bird photographer how you have great success with some species and seem to completely fail with others. Every bird photographer has a few 'bogey birds' for which they struggle to get images. For example, Dottrel that are relatively easy to photograph due to their very confiding nature I have never managed yet to put in front of the lens.

This is a highly skulking bird that loves to keep deep within low vegetation and a species which many have only heard but not seen. I think the key to my numerous prolonged encounters with these birds has been mainly due to timing. The window for photography is a narrow one and only seems to last two or three weeks from when the birds first arrive back from Africa and  until they have secured a mate for the breeding season. During this brief time the birds, that will have taken up residence in low clumps of brambles and scrub will frequently move up to the highest perch in the early morning to burst into their unusual insect like song allowing great opportunities for the photographer.

As insect grasshoppers are not usually singing at the time when these warblers are, if you hear the characteristic fast clicking sound in the mid-spring its a good chance it is one of these birds.

Homing in on the birds' locations can sometimes be difficult as during the song they rotate their heard to broadcast the sound giving it ventriloquist properties with it seemingly coming from somewhere else. It can be heard from a surprising long distance, as long as you and not too old to have had your high frequency hearing dulled. I think the song has some sort of hypnotic influence on me, as despite telling myself to concentrated on photographing other species, each time I hear it I find myself drawn in towards the bird. One thing I do know that is a hour or so in early morning light at close quarters to a 'Gropper', as they are known locally, is an unforgettable wildlife encounter.

Once a singing Grasshopper Warbler is located their photography is relatively straight forward as they are fairly unconcerned by your presence (as long as you do not move) and it is quite predictable where they are going to sing from. As with many warblers they have preferred song perches. Its really just a question of having some patience and waiting for the bird to occasionally pop up from the brambles on to one of its perches and start its 'reeling' song.
Given that I have so many Grasshopper Warbler images now, I have told myself that in future years I will do my best to ignore them and look for other species. Whether I will be able to stick to this remains to be seen and no doubt in future years on hearing the song I will be drawn back in gripped by 'Gropper' fever once again.

Friday, May 18, 2012

Homeschooling and Socialization

1935 ONE HAPPY YEAR 1930s Childrens Book Marion and Ross Henderson Vintage Illustration 15

Q. What are your feelings on the social aspect of homeschooling and how do you provide opportunities for your kids to learn how to socialize in a variety of situations? I never thought I'd be a socialization critic! Am I just overreacting and worrying too much about it?! I just want my kids to have the skills and abilities to function well in life and reach their full potentials.


A. When I sat down to write this post I thought about just leaving a one sentence answer. I have a friend who when asked "Aren't you worried about socialization?" answers "Yes! That's why I keep them at home."

I knew that wasn't the answer you were looking for. Then I started typing this: "For some reason socialization seems to be "the" biggest concern about those who homeschool. I think I can see why. Some have met homeschoolers who are awkward or weird or shy or geeky or .....well the list could go on. Truth be told I have met those homeschoolers too. I have also met public schooled children {and adults} who also fit those adjectives but for some reason public schooling is never to blame in those situations. Why is that?"

Going the whiny, whiny route wouldn't be good either. Two strikes! I hope the third try is a charm.

Socialization. What is meant by that anyway? I think that is why I am having a hard time writing this post. People mean different things when asking about socialization.

Some are really asking "Who will your children interact with if they are home all day? Won't they be lonely?" {That's actually called socializing}

Others are really asking "How will they learn to interact with others if they are home all day?" {In other words how will they be prepared for the 'real world'}

And there's the basic definition. Dictionary.com defines socialization as "a continuing process whereby an individual acquires a personal identity and learns the norms, values, behavior, and social skills appropriate to his or her social position."

First let's look at the typical day for a public schooled child vs. a homeschooled child.

Public School
Get up,
Get dressed,
Eat breakfast
Go to school
Spend seven hours with about 30 other children the same age and a teacher {two if you are lucky} with a break for lunch and recess
Come home, do homework
Music lessons or sports or both
Play with friends
Eat dinner
Go to bed

Homeschooled Child
Get Up
Get Dressed
Eat breakfast
Do school
Some days it's all at home, other days there are field trips {homeschoolers LOVE field trips}, or co-op classes with other homeschoolers
Eat lunch
Free time until friend get out of school
Music lessons or sports or both
Play with friends
Eat dinner
Go to bed

Obviously these are very basic outlines. Do you see how similar their days are? The biggest difference is where they do their schooling and with whom they are associating during those times. Public schooled children spend the majority of their time with a teacher and about 30 other people their same age. Homeschooled children spend the majority of their time with family, but also other children {of all age ranges} and adults.

Because of all the similarities then the questions about socialization can be reduced to: Whom do homeschooled children interact with? How do they learn to interact with others? And what do we want them to learn anyway?


Let's start with the last question first. What do I want my children to learn? {this is just a short list but you get the idea}

  • to treat others with respect
  • engage in conversation with anyone of any age
  • how to make friends
  • how to keep friends
  • how to cooperate with others
  • polite manners
  • how to handle difficult situations or people {bullying, discrimination, etc.}
  • to hold tightly to the moral values they have and not be swayed by others
  • to be responsible for their actions
  • to relate with others who are different than they are
Now who is responsible for teaching these to my children?  How do they learn to interact with others? When the question of socialization is brought up to homeschoolers there is an underlying thought that goes unsaid whether the person asking it realizes it or not. The implied thought is, "The public school is the best/only place for a child to be socialized. I believe this or I wouldn't be asking the question in the first place."

I tried looking up socialization in older pre-1900 dictionaries. The word didn't exist, which leaves me to wonder, much like the teenager thing, how society has changed in the last 100 years and skewed our thinking that in order for a child to be 'socialized' it must be done in a school setting with 30 other children their same age and one or two adult figures present for 7 hours a day 5 days a week for 12 years.

Going back to my whiny, whiny paragraph above I think it is safe to say that most social skills are learned from the parents anyway, regardless of where they are schooled. If you look at young adults {I'm not using children as an example because they are still young and learning} you will find for the most part they behave in public much like their parents do. If there is a young woman who likes to talk a lot during a lesson at church I can almost guarantee if you peek in at her mother in a different class she will be doing the same thing. Have a young man who likes to cut up in class making 'smart' remarks? His dad probably does the same.

Socialization is going to happen no matter where you are, whether at home or at school or in the community. The quality of that socialization is what differs and it is up to parents to make sure that no matter where their kids are they have the necessary skills to interact effectively with others. Which leads to the last question {or the first}. Whom do homeschooled children interact with?

One misconception about homeschoolers is that they stay at home all day, every day. They don't! Most are a part of homeschool co-ops where they get together with other homeschoolers of all ages to learn together. Usually a parent or two teaches mini classes. Homeschooled children are actually exposed to more ages of children and more adults {authority figures} than public schooled children are. Doesn't that sound more like "the real world" to you?

Back to your original question, are you overreacting and worrying too much about it? Yes! No matter where your children are educated - public or home - there are ample opportunities to learn to get along with other people and plenty of examples to look to, the best example being you.

This question was one of many asked in the Q&A: Homeschool Edition post earlier this year.

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Thursday, May 17, 2012

Meal Planning for a Large Family

Q. What is a typical week of meals for your family right now?

A. I love our farming, homeschooling lifestyle. One of the biggest reasons is we get to eat all three meals a day together as a family. This also means somebody has to make all those meals. If we aren't prepared by knowing ahead of time what we will cook there are a lot of disappointed people in the house.

menu board

This is our menu board. It's just a big picture frame with fabric that matches our kitchen behind the glass. The glass part is 16x20. That's a nice big writing space. You'll see why in a minute. During one of our mother/daughter times Brownie helped me cut out the vinyl lettering. I love it! Whoever has cooking for the week fills it out for all to see. Sometimes someone will sneakily erase something or add something else they have been craving.

I suspect we go about menu planning like most everyone else does. We look through our cupboards/pantry to see what we have in stock, search the grocery sales ads for good deals, then scour our cookbooks before actually writing down a menu. This helps to keep our costs down to about $125-$150 a week or about $5.95 - $7.14 per meal for the entire family. {more about our grocery costs in another post}

One thing I have found we do differently is the amount of side dishes we have especially for our biggest meal of the day which is lunch. It is not uncommon for us to have a main dish, at least two or three veggie options, a salad {fruit, jello, pasta or green}, and a bread. We've found instead of tripling a main recipe {that usually feeds 4-5 people} we can get away with making only one recipe because we all fill up with the cheaper side options. Now you know why our writing space on our menu board is so big. We need room for writing all those side dishes! And we do write them all down. After making our menu we can then see exactly what ingredients are needed for each meal and make our grocery list for food we don't already have in stock.

Here are the typical main dishes we have for each meal.

Breakfast:
  • oatmeal or granola with lots of topping options - fruit, nuts, cream, cinnamon and other spices, yogurt 
  • cream of wheat
  • pancakes {fruit, oatmeal, whole wheat}
  • waffles
  • biscuits {served with cheese sauce or sausage gravy, or plain with jam}
  • french toast
  • cornbread
  • German pancakes {hootenanny}
  • quiche cups
  • muffins {all types}
  • crepes with filling options
  • eggs - flat, scrambled, poached, or hard boiled
  • hashbrowns
  • sausage
  • bacon
  • toast
  • fruit smoothies
  • cold cereal {only once in a great while}
We always have at least four fruit options available to eat with breakfast: apples, bananas and then whatever is in season - berries, mangoes, grapes, oranges, etc. Our favorite drink for breakfast is milk or chocolate milk.

Lunch: {this is only a sampling}
  • Hawaiian Haystacks
  • Teriyaki Chicken
  • Sweet and Sour Chicken
  • BBQ Chicken
  • Fried Chicken
  • Chicken Broccoli Casserole
  • Chicken and Rice Casserole
  • Chicken Noodle Soup
  • Mexican Haystacks
  • Tacos
  • Enchiladas
  • Burritos
  • Hamburgers
  • Taco Sotp
  • Tin Foil Dinners
  • Navajo Tacos
  • Porcupine Meatballs
  • Lasagne
  • Spaghetti
  • Lentil Stew
  • Beef Stew
  • French Dip Sandwiches
  • Stir Fry
  • Fajitas
  • Quesadillas
  • Lemon Salmon
  • Tuna Noodle Casserole
  • Panini Sandwiches
  • Pizza
  • Baked Potatoes

Dinner:
  • Leftovers
  • Salad {Ceasar, Spinach Strawberry, etc}
  • Choose anything from breakfast or lunch  :)
Side dishes:{a sampling}
  • cooked veggies - plain {peas, green beans, broccoli and cauliflower, carrots, corn, mixed peppers and onions, etc.}
  • raw veggies
  • salads - pasta salad, fruit salad, green salad, jello salad, bean salad
  • potatoes au gratin
  • french fries
  • broccoli roll ups {baked in crescent rolls}
  • black-eyed peas
  • couscous
  • rice
Snacks:
  • Fruits of all kinds - apples, bananas, raspberries, mangoes, strawberries, grapes, oranges, kiwis, etc.
  • Veggies- Broccoli, Cucumber, Cauliflower, Carrots, Jicama, Celery, Grape Tomatoes
  • Cookies
  • Muffins
  • Granola Bars
  • Mozzarella Cheese Sticks
I've shared a lot of recipes over the years. Most can be found by clicking the Cookbook option in my menu board at the top of the blog. Apparently I really like to share desserts!


Just about everything we cook and bake is made from scratch. Good home cooking just can't be beat! It's one of the best ways to show love to your family.

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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

An Edwardian Era Apron {Tutorial}

Edwardian Apron 21


The first apron in our "Walk Through Apron History" is an Edwardian era full length, all one piece beauty. It is very simple to make, and like everything else in the Edwardian era, provides complete coverage.  :)

This pattern is one size fits all. There are tips at the end of the post for enlarging or adjusting the pattern to fit smaller or more robust frames. For reference, I am modeling the apron above without any adjustments to the pattern. I am 5'2" and wear a size 10/12. There are two different ways to sew this apron, one with a bias tape edge, the other without. I've included instructions for both in the tutorial.

Supplies Needed:
1 1/2 yds of fabric {44 inches wide for S/M 60 inches wide for L/XL)
2 packs of 1/4 inch double fold bias tape
2 buttons or snaps
Edwardian Apron Bodice Pattern

Bias Tape Instructions/Button or Snap Closure

Step 1:
Print and tape the pattern pieces together according to the directions in the file.
Edwardian Apron 01

Step 2: Place pattern on fold of fabric. Pin. I transferred my pattern to brown paper. It's hard to get the camera to focus when the pattern is white on white fabric!
Edwardian Apron 02

Step 3: Extend the bottom of the bodice at least 33 inches, more if you are taller. This is done free hand. I curved the back edge as well. CUT. This apron is made with one solid piece of fabric. Only the shoulders are stitched together.
Edwardian Apron 03

Step 4: Match shoulder seams sharing the same armhole and sew with a 1/2 inch seam allowance. The photo above shows the stitched shoulder seams wrong side out.
Edwardian Apron 04

Step 5: Sew bias tape along all edges of the apron. Don't forget the neckline and arm holes!
Edwardian Apron 05

Step 6: Sew button or snap on the left back side and the opposing snap or a button hole on the right back side. If sewing a snap make sure the snap is on TOP on the left side and UNDERNEATH on the right side. :)
Edwardian Apron 06-07

Done!

No Bias Tape Instructions/Tie Closure


Follow steps 1-3 above cutting out TWO full apron pieces instead of one. You'll need at least 3 yards of fabric.
Edwardian Apron 09

Step 4: Cut out 2 2x12 inch pieces of fabric. Press down 1/4 inch on each long edge, then press in half.
Edwardian Apron 10

Step 5: Sew down the edges to create ties.
Edwardian Apron 12

Step 6: Place one apron piece down on the table or floor right side facing up. Pin one tie to each back side piece. Place the other apron piece right side down so the right sides are together. Sew along all outer edges, leaving the shoulder seams open and a 5 inch opening at the bottom for turning. Make sure to stop stitching 1/2 inch away from the ends of the shoulder seams. See next step for the reason why.
Edwardian Apron 11

Step 7: Iron down the shoulder seams 1/2 inch on one apron piece {there are four shoulder edges!} You can also see the shoulder seam pressed down on the top apron piece in step 6 above.
Edwardian Apron 14

Step 8: Turn right side out and press all edges nicely. This photo shows you what the shoulder seams will look like when you have turned the apron right sides out and pressed.
Edwardian Apron 15-17

Step 9: Match the shoulder seams sharing the same armhole to each other with the unpressed edges next to each other. Sew with a 1/2 inch seam allowance. When done bring the pressed edges together enclosing the raw edges and hand stitch the opening closed.

Step 10: Sew the opening at the bottom of the apron closed either by hand sewing it closed or by top stitching 1/8 inch from the edge of the apron all the way around.
Edwardian Apron 18-20

Done!

Additional tips for adjusting the pattern size.
  • For smaller frames you can easily decrease bust/waist area by adding double point darts {simple tutorial here} to the front of the apron bodice.
  • Smaller frames can also add extra buttons to the back closure. See photo for the first step 6 above.
  • Those with more robust frames can increase the pattern before cutting by adding inches where the pink line is on the pattern making the back pieces larger. You will need to use 60 inch wide fabric.
  • Larger frames can also make longer ties.
  • You can use either closure for each apron. When adding ties to the bias tape apron, sew the neckline last extending the bias tape at least 12 inches past the back end on both sides.
Oh yes, both aprons are up for grabs in the giveaway! Enter using the rafflecopter. Click on each option for instructions then click "did it" to be entered.
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Monday, May 14, 2012

Enjoying Young Adults in the House Rather Than "Teenagers"

I love having young women in the house! My oldest girls are 16, 15 and 13 and let me tell you they are a joy to have around. We have been missing them the last week and a half as they have been vacationing in Florida with my parents. Thinking about them while they are gone has made me realize just how wonderful they are and how enjoyable these teen years can be for a family.

Eve
{Bon Bon, age 16}

When my older girls were the little girls we often received comments like "You have five girls? Good luck with that when they get to be teenagers!" And now when we go shopping in town {with all the kids} we get "You have three teenage girls! How do you survive?" I'm so glad we were wished all the luck. It worked. We survive because we don't believe in 'teenagers' as most westernized people do.

Marie 02
{Semisweet, age 15}

Good read-a-loud books are priceless. It was while reading books to my older children when they were little that I realized pre-1940 "teenagers" didn't exist. There were children and adults, with those in in the "teen" years being considered young adults.

Sara
{Brownie, age 13}

It struck me that the dreaded teen years were a rather new phenomenon. And mostly of our own making. Did you know that the first documented use of the word teenager is in a 1941 Reader's Digest? This realization helped Mr. Ferrero Rocher and I adjust our parenting so instead of dreading "the teen years" we looked forward to having young adults in the house. And by golly, it has worked! {so far}

What do we want our children to be? We want them to be well rounded adults who care for others, are selfless, know the skills to take care of themselves and their own families, who contribute to society, who are deeply religious and have a faith in God that will carry them through the rough times they will inevitably have in their lives. We have parented with that end in mind.

What have we done?
  • We never talked about "the teen years" with dread or angst. Instead we have spoken about the increased opportunities to learn and grow and serve and the freedoms and responsibilities that go with that.
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    {Cleaning and cooking are more fun with a cute apron. Dressing up as a 1950's housewife helps too!}
  • We've taught them skills as children that they are honing now as young adults. One example is cooking. Before the age of ten they help out in the kitchen learning how to cook, read recipes, plan meals, etc. By the time my children are twelve they are in charge of menu planning, grocery shopping, and cooking for the whole week. That's 21 meals! And they are good at it. The weeks are rotated and spread out enough that they look forward to their week of cooking. The same will be expected of my sons when they reach that age.
  • As they have grown we have increased their responsibilities at home and on the farm. These aren't "little" responsibilities with no value but rather ones they know really contribute to our family's well-being. See above for an example.
  • Let them make their own decisions. One example - what to do for high school. We explored together all the options available to them including public school. We discussed pros and cons, making charts that eerily brought back memories of my parents doing the same with me. And then we let them decide what they wanted to do. It was their schooling, their future.
  • They have learned to respect and trust us and our judgements as their parents. Conversely we have learned to trust them and theirs especially as they have shown good judgement in the past. These two - making decisions and trust - build on each other.
  • Increased their circle of friends to include not only peers their age but adults and children too. A quick scan of Bon Bon's facebook friends shows an almost even split between peers her age and adults. I know every single one of them and they are such good people, mentors really, to her. When you think about pre-1940, those in the teen years were either working alongside adults {think family farm} or apprenticed to adults to learn special work skills. After 1940 most teens where grouped together according to age to learn from one another rather than from those more experienced. This grouping actually happened before that, around 1900 but after 1940 showed the biggest change. The circle of people who influenced teens for good decreased.
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    {Recreating a photo from 12 years ago}
  • Humor. A good does of humor goes a long way in diffusing tense situations. Laughter IS good medicine. Knowing when to laugh at our mistakes helps us realize that 1) we will make mistakes 2) it's okay to acknowledge them because 3) we learn from them and move on. Having a good sense of humor also makes you easy and enjoyable to be around.
  • Siblings will always be your best friends. :)
One more  suggestion geared directly to those raising daughters. I often get asked about dealing with "hormonal" teenage girls. How do we survive with three in the house? For most of my married life I have either been pregnant or nursing. I don't menstruate while nursing. My daughters have never seen me act "hormonal" or cranky due to PMS. As they have hit puberty they didn't know it was an "option" or an "excuse" women use to act cranky/crazy/emotional etc.

helpful daughter
{Bon Bon comforting a crying Hershey}

Knowledge is power. They do know there is an increase of hormones and these will effect how they feel. They also realize they have the power to choose how to let those emotions show. Instead of snapping at a sibling they take their aggression out on the piano. A chick flick is watched so there's an outlet for crying. And they always know if they just need to talk they can come to me or their dad. Honestly, if you came and spent a month or two at my house you wouldn't be able to tell who was having a period or when. I asked Mr. Ferrero Rocher last night if he could tell and he said, "Nope, not at all." 

I realize right now we just have young women in our home. Our approach might change a little with our sons, but I don't think it will that much. My friend, WaterWorks, has written a great post about the young men in their house. Stop by there for a visit and see if anything she has written can help you!

How have you found the teen years to be in your house? What have you learned that could help others? Share in the comments!

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Saturday, May 12, 2012

Because motherhood is just like that

Corn.
Corn Chopping 14
It took four full moons to grow. Another to dry.
1:365
I watcher her hands swiftly pat the masa, spread the meat {eight hours of simmering tender} pinch and seal and wrap in its corn husk blanket.

Three hours of steaming. For what?

Tamales, hot, spicy, tender. Devoured in five minutes, ten if eaten slowly.

And isn't motherhood just like that?


57:365
dishes to wash {one is never really caught up},
floors to mop,
laundry breeding piles on its own,
licking spilled milk
milk, white and creamy, spilled every which way,

the sickness and worry, driving here, there, everywhere
141:365
your heart bleeding open
114:365
life so fragile you feel as is you'll be blown away

and then

then

you are blown away
Gratitude Day 26: Mornings
by this
Untitled
and this
Makes my heart melt
and this
kissing lips
small five minutes, ten minutes, fleeting minutes of
tumbling
pure joy,
morning's collection of eggs
tender mercies of grace.
"[Grace is] a word that occurs frequently in the New Testament, especially in the writings of Paul. The main idea of the word is divine means of help or strength, given through the bounteous mercy and love of Jesus Christ. It is through the grace of the Lord Jesus, made possible by his atoning sacrifice, that mankind will be raised in immortality, every person receiving his body from the grave in a condition of everlasting life. It is likewise through the grace of the Lord that individuals, through faith in the atonement of Jesus Christ and repentance of their sins, receive strength and assistance to do good works that they otherwise would not be able to maintain if left to their own means. This grace is an enabling power that allows men and women to lay hold on eternal life and exaltation after they have expended their own best efforts."
enabling power,
campfire
fuel for the soul,
14:364
water to fill my cup.
Kisses
Motherhood is just like this.
Montse and Isa
Dedicated to my own dear mother whom I can never repay and still don't fully appreciate.

I love you, Mom!




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